You Don’t Have to Smile

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Oh no! I’m not smiling!

When I started this blog, I was thinking about self expression as a person expressing him or herself in a creative way.  However, we express ourselves in a number of ways, including our facial expressions.  I know my face looks different when I am happy or sad, when I am excited or nervous, when I am tired or wide awake.

And here’s the thing.  My facial expression can be whatever it is.  I can choose if I want to smile or if I want to frown or if I just want to have a neutral look.

During the last two weekends, I had two people tell me “SMILE!”  And I really hated it.

The first time was when I was walking to the coffee shop to work, and I was thinking about my projects.  A man told me to smile because life isn’t that bad and because God loves me.  This man who knows nothing about my choice to smile or not smile or what I was thinking at the time.

The second time was when I posted an updated photo of my hair on a “going gray and loving it” forum on Facebook.  My eyes looked really blue, and I really that I could see my emerging gray with my hair pulled back.  I didn’t have a cheesy grin.  I just had my unfiltered face.  When I posted the picture, I was commanded to SMILE! by a group member.  Uh, no thanks.

I’m writing this to remind myself that I never have to smile.  I am not a little girl sitting in a photo studio trying to look cute for a picture.  I do not have to smile when I’m walking down the street, and I do not have to smile for photos.  My body and my face belong to me, and I can decide what I want to do with them.

I do like to smile, laugh, and giggle, a lot.  On my own terms.

To smile or not to smile, that is the question!  (You decide!)

Rachel

Journal, if you’d like: How do you feel when people tell you to smile?  Do you think they are just being concerned about a serious or grumpy or intense look on your face?  When people tell you to smile, how does it make you feel?  Or: what in your life makes you smile?  When’s the last time you smiled?  How would you describe your facial expression at this point in time?